One on the most common questions put to me is "Dereck, when are you going to get settled down". I sometimes think, how did we coin this word. When I first tried to understand this questions I found that it is a polite way of asking "Dereck, when are you getting married".
"Why is the world so eager to see Dereck married"...... This question keeps me sleepless nights. But I enjoy it. As much as I tell people "I am so happy to be in this world". I often then that the 21st Century is going to be different when it comes to relationships between men and women. Indian men and women. I see people restless, ambitious and always on the run. Born in a very laid back place (Goa), I have travelled/lived in the north, south, east of India and in the US. I have had a close look at the women and men and how they think about relationships.....
I have had many a flirtings with women. Hmm for a guy who used to fall in love every single day from the age of 15, today I am a little reserved about my feelings. From a guy who used to stand on his hands infront of women, to a friendly sophisticated person today.... I have been to all of it.
All this is fun and great. But when it comes to marriage, I am all but freaked out. The situation of having one woman by you all day and night. To actually be "reporting" to her..... Man, no wonder I am making plans to trek to RoopKund (4200 m above sea-level in the lower Himalayas).
Somethings I understand about women, first listen to them patiently, even if it is her daily chore. My favorite question "Hey how is your day going". Followed by, "What did you do". Nine out of Ten women have told me lots and lots of stories. See there builds a conversation... I normally do ask people out for a coffee/movie only if I am comfortable to talk to the person. But most of my first dates are silent for me. Most women say "Hey you just keep smiling". "Say something". And I am like "Yeah, I am listening to you." On favorite place is Ruby Tuesday, or a Barista (I like the one in South Ex, they have live bands sometimes).
I like women who dress well (not the salwar suit types... I haven't yet had a date with someone who wore it.... hhmmm yeah).... I like western smart casuals.....
So my favorite part in any conversation are "questions", seems like I have a bag of them. "Hey what type of music do you like". "Do you play music". Do you sing...
Ok now you guys are bored.... I have deviated from the point of marriage.... Ok, short and sweet answer.... Indian women have certainly managed to scare me..... Ah ha.... Now this should begin a series of stories......... to the next time I start writing.
"Why is the world so eager to see Dereck married"...... This question keeps me sleepless nights. But I enjoy it. As much as I tell people "I am so happy to be in this world". I often then that the 21st Century is going to be different when it comes to relationships between men and women. Indian men and women. I see people restless, ambitious and always on the run. Born in a very laid back place (Goa), I have travelled/lived in the north, south, east of India and in the US. I have had a close look at the women and men and how they think about relationships.....
I have had many a flirtings with women. Hmm for a guy who used to fall in love every single day from the age of 15, today I am a little reserved about my feelings. From a guy who used to stand on his hands infront of women, to a friendly sophisticated person today.... I have been to all of it.
All this is fun and great. But when it comes to marriage, I am all but freaked out. The situation of having one woman by you all day and night. To actually be "reporting" to her..... Man, no wonder I am making plans to trek to RoopKund (4200 m above sea-level in the lower Himalayas).
Somethings I understand about women, first listen to them patiently, even if it is her daily chore. My favorite question "Hey how is your day going". Followed by, "What did you do". Nine out of Ten women have told me lots and lots of stories. See there builds a conversation... I normally do ask people out for a coffee/movie only if I am comfortable to talk to the person. But most of my first dates are silent for me. Most women say "Hey you just keep smiling". "Say something". And I am like "Yeah, I am listening to you." On favorite place is Ruby Tuesday, or a Barista (I like the one in South Ex, they have live bands sometimes).
I like women who dress well (not the salwar suit types... I haven't yet had a date with someone who wore it.... hhmmm yeah).... I like western smart casuals.....
So my favorite part in any conversation are "questions", seems like I have a bag of them. "Hey what type of music do you like". "Do you play music". Do you sing...
Ok now you guys are bored.... I have deviated from the point of marriage.... Ok, short and sweet answer.... Indian women have certainly managed to scare me..... Ah ha.... Now this should begin a series of stories......... to the next time I start writing.
1 comment:
Awesome sir.keep blogging I m excited to see what u write n of course how.for the time being guess who m I? I used to blog 2 years left dat b coz of work.rest is ok...jada dimag khrab karne ki zaroorat nahi..chill hai....waiting for next post...take care
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